About Alex
MSW, Couples Coach
I help growth-oriented couples transform recurring conflict into deeper connection, self-understanding, and love.
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My approach combines family systems theory, somatic practices, meditation, and hypnotherapy to help partners understand themselves more deeply and relate with greater honesty, trust, and care.
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I believe relationships are among the greatest opportunities we have for growth. They reveal our deepest wounds, strongest defenses, and deepest longing: to be fully known and loved.
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As a husband, father, and lifelong student of human relationships, I’ve learned that lasting connection is less something we find than something we practice—through honesty, curiosity, and the willingness to keep turning toward one another.
Why I Do This Work
It all started with a question that haunted me at the beginning of college: How do we live in a world with so much suffering?
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That question led me to meditation, hypnosis, and eventually a decade of helping people heal from difficult childhood experiences. Because I had struggled with feeling good enough in an often overwhelming world, this work was deeply meaningful to me.
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At the same time, I was searching for something I wanted just as much: a relationship that felt like home. Instead, I found many of the challenges couples know well—resentment, pursuit and withdrawal, and the painful experience of feeling disconnected from someone you love.
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When I met my wife, I found the relationship I had been looking for. But compatibility wasn't enough. Through years of couples therapy, graduate training, and family therapy practice, I learned firsthand that thriving relationships are built, not found. I watched intentional work transform my own relationship and became increasingly drawn to helping other couples do the same.
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Today, I focus exclusively on couples because I believe relationships are where some of our deepest wounds surface—and where some of our greatest growth becomes possible.
What Guides My Work
These core beliefs shape how I understand relationships and how I support couples
​​​Relationships awaken survival patterns
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The ways we learned to adapt and survive our early years often become the exact patterns that interfere with intimacy in adulthood.
​​​We repeat what feels familiar
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Couples often find themselves caught in relationship dynamics that began long before they met each other.
​​​Trust requires a balance of fairness
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A secure and healthy relationship depends on an ongoing, mutual balance of giving and receiving over time.
​​​Freedom in connection
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Learn to state your own needs clearly, give more freely of yourself, and hold your partner's experience with deep consideration.
My Training
My training draws from multiple traditions to understand both the individual and the relationship as a whole.
​​​Center for Family Development ​
Family Systems Therapy
Two years of intensive supervision and consultation focused on family therapy and couples work.
​​​University of Central Florida ​
Master of Social Work (MSW)
I learned to understand people within the larger systems that shape them: family, culture, history, and community.
Seattle School of Body-Psychotherapy ​
Developmental Trauma
Understanding how developmental patterns shape adult relationships.
Alchemy Institute of Hypnosis
Hypnotherapy
I learned how unresolved childhood wounds continue to influence adult relationships.
Pomona College
Bachelor of Arts in Psychology
Studied psychology because I wanted to understand how to address the incredible suffering in the world.
Together, these approaches help me understand both the individual histories each partner brings into a relationship and the dynamics that emerge between them.
The Invitation
If you've read this far, I'd love to hear what's bringing you here.
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Finding the right support matters. If you're wondering whether this could be the right fit, I'd love to meet you for a complimentary 20-minute consultation. We'll talk about what's happening in your relationship and whether working together feels like the right fit.​​
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